Held together with duc tape....

This is my journal above. It is 4 years old and held together with duc tape.

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It still serves its purpose though because it still has some blank pages.

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This morning I had 'my time' with Gail. I spoke to her in the first person. The conversation did not come easily. There were a lot of starts and stops, but we were there....together.

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This was not something that I was looking forward to and it took me a week to do it. It was, however, time well spent. There was longing, pain, sorrow and a strange peace, all mixed together. It was quite messy, actually.

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I can see her now.

There she was, lying there so peaceful, a nurse had braided her hair and her favorite turtle blanket was covering her....she was saying not to worry about her, that she was going to be with Jesus and that she was safe and sound. That was both comforting and painful. This fact illcits the same feelings even now.

The painful reality that she is no longer here sinks deeper by the day and yet her memory lives on in us.

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I see Devon honoring Gail everyday. He has matured so much in a short time. No wonder. The Lord and Gail were quite a team. I sense that they are both pleased by what they see.

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I myself hope that I can be more and more like Jesus and Gail and become less that He can become more.

ahhh!...cheers!!!! The newest Peetniks in Half Moon Bay

peet's is here. finally.

two soul brothers to the right celebrating free coffee day last Saturday.

uh oh.

how am I doing

Hi,

This is Devon speaking. I feel alright considering the fact that my Mom is not here anymore. School is going ok. I am doing pretty good. Just keep praying that I pass all my classes and that I will able to stay in a good relationship with God and my Dad. Thanks for all of prayers. I hope all of you guys are doing well.

Love,

Devon

This is me in my first job at the half moon bay pumpkin festival. We sold mac and cheese and pumpkin mac and cheese.

Blessed are they that mourn........

The following verse came to mind this past week:

'Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.'

How do I mourn anyways?

I hope that by writing on today's post to somehow discover in some depth what mourning is and somehow be comforted.

I was encouraged recently to have my private
time to get my feelings out. I told this person that I used to journal but haven't much since Gail's passing, just here and there. He told me that if I use the journal and set aside regular time, that this can be a time that Gail and I have together. This statement kind of kicked my butt. I never thought about journaling in this way before.

This regular journaling time could be a way for me to spend time with Gail in the here and now and even into the future. What a precious time this could be....I could tell Gail how much that she means to me in this life and how grateful I am for the life that we had, and how full it was.
Even now, I am grateful as I write this post.

The following are memories and gratitude written randomly.

• I am grateful to the Lord for being able move to Half Moon Bay 9 years ago as Gail's health improved along the way. She was active as ever, doing what she loved.
• I'm thankful that our family and friends in Orange County released us to move to No. Cal with their blessing. These past nine years have been ones of planting and building.
• I remember when Gail and I worked with Jr. Highers and she used to get her paycheck all in cash and how quickly that wad of money would disappear because Jr. Highers never had any money, but they could eat a ton!
• I'm thankful for the wonderful years that we had in Anaheim and teaming up in ministry and in community at 'The Ark'.
• I'm thankful for the tamale making parties at the Ark and I could see Gail off in the corner with a cup o' joe in deep conversation, while the rest of us were doing something silly.
• I'm thankful for what we had in community through 'JR'.
• I'm thankful for the way that my life and Devon's life were better off as a result of our 'love bond' with Gail.
• I'm thankful that Gail 'gave me up' to the Lord years ago and didn't feel the need to try to change me. This released Gail into a season of health and giving to others. It also freed me up.
• I'm thankful that Gail took the opportunity to get to know people and 'be with' people over the years. She just didn't have the opportunity, she took the opportunity to be used by God to enrich lives and to 'bear' and share with 'loved' ones.
• I'm thankful that Gail was able to team up with Aaron and Lisa and the gang at the Molina's to collaborate in the education of our children and to be involved in both a relational and instructive way. She loved being with Tay-tay, Allie, Heather, Ryan and Alison.
• I'm thankful for the Lord's gift of time that He gave us with Gail. It is priceless. (As I write this, I grieve and I mourn, but somehow it is okay.) As I write this, I feel both close to her and so blessed. I weep as I write realizing how blessed I am and how sad I am.
• I'm thankful that somehow I can have 'time with Gail' in my journaling time.
• I'm glad that the Lord used Gail to bless you and shine his face upon you and give you His peace and blessing. Gail was blessed to sit/walk/stand with you both in joy and sorrow, silence and despair, in goofiness and stupidity.
• Gail enjoyed being a team mom for the cougars, cats and cubs and she is so proud that you always did your best and never gave up. I know that she was amazed at the commitment demonstrated by Coach Steve and Coach Matt and Coach Heather and Coach Greg and Coach Kimberly.
• Gail enjoyed being your friend and counted it a privelege.
• She was honored that she could be with you and you celebrated your marriage vows.
• She was blessed to be in your small group community.
• She was blessed to be a colleague and cohort in ministry and in life.
• She was blessed to witness and participate in your baptism, Lauren, Justin, Riley, Devon, Clayton, Ray-Ray and Clarise and Laura, Kazu, Erwin, Lisa, Lucy and many others.
• She was blessed to be able to be part of blessing Kenji up at June Lake this last Memorial Day Weekend.
• She was blessed by the Anaheim Free Methodist Church for allowing her to serve there and for helping support her financially through seminary.

A about a month ago, I called Gail's Mom, Merry to ask her when she was coming up. I had had a hard week and was feeling really stretched. She came up and is with us and it has been good for all of us, I think. Devon and I began our therapy that same week, so the timing was good.

I feel that with 'Mom' here, that I can 'go' to places that it was really hard to go to. Her presence has created some 'space' for me to let go here and there. I have felt that my mind has been really crowded and busy. Mom being here has helped me slow down a bit.

'Going There' hasn't been easy. It has been bittersweet. It's hard because there is a sting and a hurt that is sharp realizing more fully that Gail is not here with me any longer physically. It has intensified the sadness and loss........and yet, her life and love still shine through and I realize that I am not as empty as I thought.....there is a fullness there...something there that even death, cannot steal....something lasting.....

This morning I called Mike (Gail's bro) and we talked for over an hour. It was like we were out taking a walk together. It was hard and good.

10/20/07

more to come.....

Homecoming October 5-7, 2007 Blue Lakes, Hope Valley, Ca. Highway 88

Hi there...

We had an adventure last weekend. 18 men and boys were trying to get to Tioga Lake to catch a late season lunker trout.

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We never made it to Tioga. It snowed 6 inches. Tioga Pass closed. Sonora Pass closed. Ebbetts Pass closed. We kept moving north trying to get over to the other side to 395 and down to Tioga from the back side. All to no avail.

Since we were the advanced party, with the tents, we had to make camp and set up camp. We looked at the GPS and it said Tioga Lake 4 hours and 37 minutes. That made 0ur decision for us.

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The Lord led us to Blue Lakes off of highway 88 near Hope Valley. It was snowy and went down to 17 degrees. As it turned out 2 out of the 3 of us in the car had been to Blue Lakes and it was a sort of a homecoming for guys in the group that had run cross country in and had come up to Blue Lakes in their high school days for training.

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As we saw each vehicle pull up, we were relieved, because the change was made on the fly and the conditions had worsened with some cars spinning out do to drifting snow at lower elevations.

But alas, the tents were set up and a white hot fire was inviting chilly ones to draw near.

Boots melted, but guys didn't care, their toes were toasty.

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Around the campfire we sang and acknowledged to the Lord and to one another that Jesus is with us through all of our lives. This truth rang true in our worship together and was evident.

We had the lake to ourselves and the frigid temps gave way to 2 glorious days of fishing together. For more pics please go to www. marinerscc.org and go to picture gallery so you can experience our trip for yourselves.

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You will want to be sure to be there next year.

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Love,

Jon and Dev.

This Is one happy camper

Devon was invited to get some 'real time' and 'in your face' feedback from his teachers at school. He took it like a man, and came out smiling. Here he is to the right with psychologist, Heather who shepherded his IEP yesterday.

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Devon received a first hand account of how he is doing in each class and how improvements can be made. He did well to receive the comments with acceptance and grace

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This was a big deal because this one happens once every three years.

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It went well as the Spirit directed the proceedings. It was evident that his team of service providers, instructors and friends are solidly behind Devon and his desire to obtain his high school diploma and to be able to walk with his class.

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Heather said that Devon is doing remarkably well despite what he's gone through and the fact that he is at the high school for the first time.

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Aaron, his home school teacher and believer trained Devon up well. His notebook looks organized which is a minor miracle in itself

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I think that Gail is proud of how Devon is doing.

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It was a godsend for us to move to Half Moon Bay as Gail has been able to pour herself into our lives. We are better off as a result. We are thankful too that Gail was enjoying life and living and even on the day of her episode, she was preparing for a party for others.

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Her life was so full of good things and good people. Her life was short, but so full and we are thankful that she was doing what she loved doing. Devon and I grieve her loss. It is indeed painful to know that she is not with us and that we will no longer see her in this life.

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We need to still get help in doing our grief work. Pray for us for this critical piece of a healthy future. It seems that God is leading us to a private counseling situation with Christ follower that is Asian American.

It looks like the teen peer counseling is fallen through and is not supposed to happen as a first step.

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Close friends Lisa, Deanne and Auntie Liz were present with us with meant the world to us, as were our friends and family near and far, the memorial day gang, the big wave gang, the work gang, the hoops gang, the Mariner's and C-Pals gang and the 'save the yoshi's committee' is doing their part to be hands, and ears for us.

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We love you all!

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Gratefully,

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Jon and Devon

Prayer Request

This is a happy camper????

Tomorrow is Devon's IEP (Individual Educational Plan/Trienniel) which includes results of psychological testing.

The aim of this process is to tailor his educational program to suit his needs on various levels including, but not limited to:

1. Academic
2. Psycho/Social
3. Workability/Career development
4. Occupational therapy
to name a few.

Deanne, an OT and Lisa, Devon's bud and confidante have been great in getting us prepped for the meeting.

The participants include: the school psychologist, his instructors, his case worker, his service providers and parent advocates.

We need prayer for us to be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit for wisdom and counsel so that we are in step with the Spirit and don't get ahead, or lag behind.

Devon's head and heart are into the game (school). It's truly been a miracle how he has progressed in this, his first full year at High School.

We have been so needy and friends and family have been intervening.

After a long layoff on the journaling, I don't to have to think too hard at all at how Someone is looking out for us. I'm glad that I have so much thanksgiving to fill the pages with.

Please pray too for friends Aaron (Devon's homeschool guru) and his wife, Anne as they have moved to Cambodia to serve the people through education and friendship.

Please pray for good friend, Kimberly who just moved to Vietnam for a season. Pray for safety and discovery. We all miss her so.

Please let us know how we can be there for you as you so wonderfully have been there for us!

Love,

Jon and Dev

P.S. Devon must have a prophetic gifting. He attends the Saturday night service @ Mariners. Last Saturday, he came home and insisted that I attend the 9:00AM service. I didn't want to, but did.

It seems that everytime Devon insists that I go, it is a Sunday that I don't want to go, but go because of his insistence, and each time, I think Wow. I'm glad that I did.

The phrase that stood out to me was, 'Jesus didn't minister to others from a distance. When he ministers to us, he comes close.'
You can hear this message, it's a good one by going to www.marinerscc.org.